A man who is now a church elder had many problems that have lasted a long time. The family was full of chaos, bitterness, anger, and unforgiveness. No one in the family wanted to admit that they were part of the problem.
He was fighting with his daughter-in-law. He became bitter and would not eat food. His wife had a stroke, and had to travel to Uganda to seek medical attention. The sons and daughters were also full of problems, copying what was taking place in their father’s house.
The man shared his testimony:
“When we were forced to move because of the war, my wife and I went to a camp. There were no rebel activities in the camp, and our children were already grown up. Our three sons and four daughters already had families of their own.
When we arrived, my oldest son married and that is when the anger and the hate started. I was fighting with my daughter-in-law, especially when her husband was absent. My wife would try to help, but it only made matters worse. I would fight so much that no one could stop me.
When my wife had a stroke, she left to find medical care in Uganda. Before she left, she said this: ‘You’ve accused me many times of being a bad woman and a
bad mother!’
While she was in Uganda, the war intensified. For most of the time, I was not able to eat any food. I did not even want to live in my own home. For three months, I ate little food.
People told me that I was killing my own children. My cousin told me that I had lost my faith. Instead of peace, my family had become chaotic.
Since I started learning about family and marriage in the class, my heart has become so open. We prayed for my wife, and she returned two weeks later.
I want to walk in life knowing what a true family is. I want to love my family. I want my family to live in peace .”
Later on, his wife said this:
“When I found my husband carrying a Bible, walking around with a Bible, I thought he was losing his mind. Little did I know that the Bible and its teachings were changing him.”
Let us continue praying that the Lord will continue to bring healing and reconciliation to this family. We have started a fellowship which is called “Love and Respect.” Thank you so much for sharing with me the important tools that are so helpful for us to understand not only the Word of God, but also to build up our families.
“Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:22 & 26).